Innocence as Unclenched Wholeness: Returning to the Gaze

There was a time when writing moved through me like a current. Not polished. Not planned. Not something I sat down to manufacture.

It came as if some inner river had found the exact shape of my hands, and I was simply the one close enough to the page to let it arrive.

Recently, I came across an old piece of my writing, and one line stood out like a doorway:

“If you just relax and become still, you will become the expression.” 

I felt it immediately. Not as nostalgia. Not as a longing for who I used to be. But as a threshold. A small, luminous hinge.

And as I sat with it, another memory returned.

Years ago, I was sitting at my writing desk, gazing out the windows, when suddenly I saw what looked like a shelf of books scrolling horizontally in front of me. I knew, without anyone speaking aloud, that I could reach forward and choose one. When I did, the scrolling stopped.

 The book opened. The answer was inside. It was all telepathic, all known, all strangely natural.

 At the time, I understood that I had accessed something vast. Something like my own soul library. Something many might call the Akashic Records.

 But now, years later, I am beginning to understand something else about that moment.

 I was not forcing. I was gazing.

 My eyes were open. My body was still. The outer world was giving my inner world a place to lean. The window, the trees, the light, the desk, the page.

 And from that softened state, the mirror shifted.

That is the phrase that came through today:

“A slight shift of the surface of the mirror.”

Not a dramatic ripping open. Not a command. Not a performance of spiritual sight. Just a slight shift.

The world remained the world, and yet something within it became readable.

 The trees became more than trees. The window became more than glass. The gaze became a doorway.

But then life happened.

Not gently. Not slowly. Not in a way my body could easily digest.

After my awakening, after the opening of my gaze, life began arriving at rapid-fire speed. One event after another. One impact after another. One thing to hold, process, witness, recover from, respond to, survive.

 There was no time to let the cup empty. No time to let the mirror settle. No time to breathe between waves.

 And there were too many things I did not want to see.

 So my gaze changed. What had once been open-eyed receiving became closed-eyed bracing.

At first, that realization felt heartbreaking. But then another truth arrived.

 My gaze did not abandon me.

 My body protected me.

 There is such a difference.

The closed eyes were not failure. They were not spiritual disconnection. They were not proof that I had lost access.

 They were the shutters closing during a storm. They were the nervous system saying, “Too much. Not now. We cannot keep looking without rest.”

 And perhaps this is where so many of us misunderstand ourselves. We think we lost the gift. We think we went numb. We think we are no longer as open, inspired, connected, creative, intuitive, loving, or whole as we once were.

But maybe we were not broken.

 Maybe we were overfilled.

 An empty cup is not the same as an abandoned cup. A closed window is not the same as a vanished sky. A contracted heart is not the same as a heart without light.

 Before, I showed up with an empty cup. Not empty as in lacking, but empty as in available. There was space inside me. There was innocence. There was unclenched wholeness.

And then life filled the cup with an avalanche.

I was holding too much while recoiling from what I had already seen, already felt, already carried.

 The mirror did not disappear.

 It rippled.

 The surface became crowded.

 The gaze became guarded.

And now, I am beginning to understand that the return is not about forcing the mirror open again. It is not about demanding visions. It is not about becoming who I was before life asked me to armor myself.

It is about authorship.

That word landed like a bell inside me.

Authorship.

I do not have to be open to everything. I do not have to see everything. I do not have to receive every image, every message, every feeling, every wound, every storm that comes near my field.

I can choose.

I can gaze with consent. I can open with care. I can close the book when I need to. I can let the shelf scroll by without reaching. I can allow the surface of the mirror to shift without falling through it.

This is not shut down. This is maturity.

This is not loss of innocence.

This is innocence returning with boundaries.

And then the phrase came:

“Innocence as unclenched wholeness.”

When those words arrived, I felt something in my heart expand beyond contraction.

Not innocence as naivety. Not innocence as pretending the hard things did not happen. Not innocence as remaining untouched by grief, rupture, disappointment, exhaustion, or rapid-fire life.

But innocence as the part of us that can soften again without surrendering our authorship.

Innocence as the body no longer curled into a fist.

Innocence as wholeness with room around it.

Innocence as openness that does not abandon itself.

And then another phrase came:

“A living edge of light.”

(Hence, the new name for my blog)

That is what a true boundary may be.

Not a wall. Not a fortress. Not a locked room inside the heart.

A living edge of light.

Something that can sense. Something that can soften. Something that can widen or narrow. Something that can say yes. Something that can say not now. Something that can say come closer. Something that can say no further.

A boundary does not have to be hard to be real. A heart does not have to contract to be protected. A gaze does not have to close forever because it once saw too much.

Maybe the mirror can shift again.

Maybe the cup can become spacious again.

Maybe the old current of writing, seeing, knowing, and receiving does not return because we chase it. Maybe it returns when we stop demanding that our openness be limitless. Maybe it returns when our sight finally belongs to us.

So today, I am not asking myself to go back. I am not trying to become the woman at the writing desk exactly as she was.

I am honoring her. I am honoring the shelf of books. I am honoring the gaze that opened. I am honoring the body that later closed its eyes to survive.

And I am honoring the new doorway forming now.

The one that says:

I can be open without being exposed.

I can be whole without being armored.

I can receive without becoming the container for every avalanche.

I can gaze without being consumed.

I can return to the mirror with authorship.

My boundary is not a wall.

 It is a living edge of light.

And perhaps wholeness is not a state we lose and then spend our lives trying to recover. Perhaps wholeness is what remains beneath the bracing.

Waiting.

Breathing.

Unclenching.

Ready, when we are, to look gently through the window again.

A Small Place to Pause

Maybe the part of you that closed did not fail you. Maybe it loved you enough to become a shutter during the storm.

And maybe now, in your own timing, something in you is beginning to ask:

Can I open differently this time?

Can I receive without disappearing?

Can I be soft without becoming unprotected?

Can my boundary become a living edge of light?

You do not have to answer all at once.

Sometimes the return begins with one softened breath, one honest sentence, one quiet gaze out the window.

May your mirror shift gently. 

May your cup become spacious again.

May your wholeness unclench in the exact rhythm your body can trust.

~DeAn’na - Keeper of the Lantern 🏮

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